Friday, January 1, 2010

Happy New Year to my peeps! AND happy anniversary to my wonderful hubby!

I hope you all had a nice, safe celebratory New Year's Eve. We did! It was our 16th anniversary and we returned to the scene of the...er, well, not crime--because it was one of the best things I've ever done. We went to the Sheraton in Protsmouth NH where they were having a New Year's Eve dinner party complete with great entertainment (stand-up comedians) and dancing. When one of us left the room, the others at our table said, "Okay, now that your other half is gone, how's it been? Really.

I'm happy to say we both told them the truth. It's been awesome. The best, most fun, years of our lives.

Marriage takes maturity. You need to know when to let things go and never bring them up again. It takes a sense of humor. Even if you're having a disagreement sometimes you can crack a joke and wind up laughing. Very few decisions are all that important. It takes respect and love--that means thinking of the other person's happiness as much as your own. I think that's been the success of our marriage.

We're each other's best frinds, biggest fans and ultimate supporters. My hubby loves to fly. I'd be happy if my feet never left the ground, but if a pilot's license is what he wants...more power to him. Similarly, he knows we'll never get rich off my royalties. But writing makes me happy, so he's fine with me building my career from the ground up.

How about you? What do you think is the secret to a good marriage?

Ash

8 comments:

icia said...

I've been married for over 29 yrs now. It's not always been easy. I think marriage takes a lot of work on both sides. When I married my husband I don't think I was totally in love with him like I am today. A few years ago I almost lost him when he had a heart attack at the age of 46. I can tell you I do not want to go through that again. (By the way he is going fine today). He is my other half and I would miss him very much if he wasn't around for me to torment him. LOL

gkman01 said...

MY THOUGHTS
Not lucky enough to have had any kind of relationship, so I can only base it on what I observe. If my parents marriage was anything to go by, I'm glad I haven't hurt anyone myself.
If a child is to repeat the mistakes of the parent, we are a victim of our own upbringing.

artlover said...

All very true. I think keeping your sense of humor is important. Really really important. My Dh and I laugh a lot. And I've been married much longer than sixteen years, and have one important rule. Never go to bed angry with each other. Don't let it fester overnight.

Tina Donahue said...

What does it take to stay happily married? Patience, patience and more patience. Being best friends helps HUGELY. Tina

Kelly Jamieson said...

It's so nice to read about a happy marriage like yours! Wishing you many more years of happiness together, Ash!

Adele Dubois said...

Ash--

Congratulations on your anniversary. Happy, long term marriages these days are quite an achievement.

My wonderful husband and I have been married 22 years. I can't imagine life without him. He's the one person I know I can rely on without question. We support each other in everything and I've never had a better friend.

Best--Adele

Latesha said...

Happy Belated Anniversary to you and your DH, Ashlyn. Glad you had a great evening. I wouldn't know from personal experience what makes a marriage good, but I would hope that respect, compromise and a sense of humor would be at the top of the list.

Stephanie said...

Happy belated anniversary, Ash! My hubby and I just celebrated our 16th anniversary on January 29th. :)